Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Parent Life: I Do Believe in Date Nights


Earlier this week, Raluca from What Would Gwyneth Do contributed a post to The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet entitled "I Don't Believe in Date Nights."  The post is great, positing that a marriage is really more about what happens every day than nights out, which is completely true.

But I still believe in date nights.

Not in the cheeseball "flowers and a fancy dinner and enough wine to give you a headache the next morning" kind of way.  More in the "we have a plan tonight" kind of way.  Just setting aside time together is a date.  If we can get out of the house, awesome.  But usually, our date nights are a text-made plan to order in and watch our DVRed NY Med or Selling New York.  I try not to change into pajamas before dinner.  Maybe one of us will run down to the Mr. Softee truck before he leaves for the night.  You know, hot stuff.

The really special date nights are the times when we can escape for a dinner without making a big production out of it.  No reservations, no cabs, no worrying about getting home before the babysitter falls asleep on the couch.  Just a regular night out, just like we used to do all the time when we were dating or before we had a baby.  Seriously, walking to our favorite sushi place and stopping to get ice cream on the way home is the most romantic date I can think of right now.

So, I do believe in date nights.  Plus everything that happens in between.  Plus ice cream.

photo by Sequins and Candy via What Would Gwyneth Do

3 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing! And yes, that was also part of my point -- the whole pressure-filled concept of "date night" bugs me, but setting aside time together without all that pressure is the key!

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  2. Exactly! Maybe the real problem is with the connotations behind the term "date night."

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  3. Or just the term "date night," which is lame.

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